Dating in your 40's

I had lunch with a couple of coworkers. One didn’t marry until she was in her late 30's so she had plenty of dating experience. She didn’t miss it and asked if it was "fun or frustrating" for me? [both!] She made an observation that I've heard several times which is that I must be a "sought after commodity", a widow in his 40's with no kids. I think this is actually what has gotten me into trouble a couple of times when women didn’t want to let me go!